It’s nothing new to disagree. It is in our nature to disagree, but how we disagree is all that matters. Having a difference in perspective and methodology is all apart of a healthy conversation. So embrace it! But the question is how to disagree with authority? Without leaving a bad taste?
How To Disagree With Authority?
Set Realistic Expectations
Some people prefer to overplay the dangers inherent in conversation. Our tendency is to start by thinking all the things that are going horribly wrong. The individual might be shocked or irritated at first. But odds are you won’t get sacked or make enemies. Consider the dangers of not standing up. Maybe the initiative will be ruined. Then objectively balance them against the possible consequences of taking action.
Have a Clear Goal
Once you express your feelings, talk about what you care about. This could be the reputation of the organization. You’re more likely to be heard if you can relate the dispute to a greater cause. Don’t expect that the connection will be obvious when you speak up. You ‘re going to want to say it clearly. Contextualize the comments so that you’re not perceived like an intrusive underling, but rather a friend who’s working to achieve a common objective.
Stay Calm And Leave Room For Disagreements
Give “psychological safety” and control to the person in authority. Let them feel comfortable by making sure they’re “ok” with the conversation. Most important of all, stay cool. If you’re angry, you appear to talk loudly and become emotional. Try to stay calm.
Validate Your Point Without Judgement
Articulate the point of view of the other party. Say it plainly, perhaps better than your colleague, sets a solid basis for the debate.Look into your vocabulary before you go on to share your thoughts. Avoid any “judgment terms” such as “short-sighted,” “foolish” or “hasty” that could set your counterpart off. Only share the truth.
Be Humble
Emphasize that you are giving your view, not the facts of the situation. Remember that this is your point of view, and welcome criticism. Be completely open to hearing different views. In the end, the person in charge is likely to make the final call, so accept that.
I appreciate this article and the advise that it gives, for I do struggle to sometimes stand up to authority when I disagree with something. It is a very sensitive subject to touch, and I think a lot of people struggle to speak up to authority, or don’t know how to do this when the time comes. One needs to be so careful that you are not take the wrong way, or that you offend someone or come across aggressive. I will make note of this advise, thank you once again.
It is a great article which new and experienced people will like.
Even if the corporations have written there are no repercussion if you express your concerns talking to higher authorities, it does not happen in the real world. People know it.
But it never means you keep silent and burden your mind with stress if you are confronted with disagreement.
Make your point with carefully chosen point not blending anyone. Prepare a question answer session before you approach authority. Stay in absolute control of your behavior our and emotions when you speak.